【為何我總吸引不到適合的伴侶？】Bashar027 Why I always cannot attract right people in relationship?
影片摘自：2017巴夏傳訊會- The Triad Mind
Q: Greetings, Bashar.
Hi to you, good day.
Q: My first question is that, I've, through the course of my life always attracted unavailable slash married people, even though I am putting out the most available energy I can…
We understand unavailable people and married people, what are slash people?
Q: Try to cram as many words as possible in there.
Cram, cram, cram. Alright.
Q: Married people.
Yes, we understand.
Q: And or Unavailable people.
Yes, yes. You didn't have to actually explain that.
Did you realize that we were joking with you?
Q: Now I do.
Q: And so I would like to know why I'm getting this back, when I'm putting the most available energy out.
Obviously you're not.
What you put out is what you get back. (One of “The 5 Laws of Creation”)
Now, let me ask you a question if I may.
Why are you unavailable?
You may think you're making yourself available, but clearly, you're not, for some reason.
And that doesn't necessarily have to be even a negative reason.
Why are you unavailable? What is your definition of being in a relationship that you actually are afraid to experience, if you attract one?
You may have a definition of a relationship that doesn't serve you. You may think that certain things will happen that you actually don't prefer to have happened, because you think they have to happen in a relationship.
So maybe if you clarify your definition of a relationship, you will find out why you are actually saying are available, but giving off the vibe that you're not.
Q: Thank you.
So what would that be? What you might be afraid might happen, If you did actually find yourself in a relationship that you are afraid to experience.
Therefore, you are attracting people who could never possibly in a sense reject you in the way you don't prefer to be rejected, because, there is never really a chance for that.
So, why are you afraid of rejection?
Q: Cause it hurts.
But why are you afraid of it would happen? What make you think that that's a high probability?
So, you haven't learned anything from your experience?
Q: Yes, I have.
Then you're not the same person, aren't you?
Q: No, I'm not.
Then how can the same person be rejected, if you're not that person anymore.
Q: Very good point.
Thank you very much, I sometimes makes them.
Again, this comes with the understanding of “how things work”.
When you allow yourself to truly take a lesson to heart, you've changed yourself and you are literally not the same person.
So you can't use really as a reason or excuse, the idea of what happened before, if you learned your lesson and change yourself to assume that it has to happen again.
Because even if in a sense it appeared to happen again, if you are not the same person, you're not going to react the same way to it, which means it doesn't matter whether it happens or not.
This is making your state of being unconditional and not based on what someone else decide to do. You have to understand that, and I know this sounds like a paradox, because it is:
In order to attract someone that you care about and someone who cares for you , you have to attract someone as if they were a complete stranger, and wouldn't know you at all.
And therefore you wouldn’t care with what they thought about you. Because it wouldn't be relevant what they thought about you.
Because they're complete stranger.
If some stranger came up on the street and says “I reject you!”
You will go “Well, you're just crazy, because you didn’t even know me.”
You wouldn't give a second thought, because it wouldn't be relevant, it would make no sense.
So, when you can get to the same state as you would be in, in listening to other strangers might say, as a rejection, and you know it's irrelevant, cause it has nothing to do with you, it has to do with them.
Then, you can open yourself up to the idea of attracting what you need, because you know what doesn't really matter in a sense what they choose to do that might be representative of their issue. Because you are clear and solid about the idea of who you prefer to be, regardless of what someone else might do.
And therefore the paradoxes is when you don't care what someone else might think of you, you open the door to the people coming in, who will actually think highly of you.
Is this helping?
Q: Very much so.
Q: Okay, my next question is, I’m not very passionate about anything.
Well, that's because you been spending time rejecting yourself.
How can you be passionate about a person, who rejects themselves?
When you stop rejecting yourself, you would see how passionate you can be about yourself and about the life that unfolds from you.
One thing is connected to the other.
Q: My final.. My final question have to be is, people have always told me that I'm otherworldly in my thinking and I've always felt like an outsider looking in.
Oh, Gee me too.
First of all, obviously, there are many outsiders looking in.
The entire gathering is outsiders looking in, and allowing the in to become the outside and the outside to become the inside. The idea is you are not alone in this.
Most of you when you start waking up to the fact that you have other connections, start feeling those other connections very strongly, as if you're from somewhere else.
You're from earth, but you're connected to many things and you have a higher being that is ultra-dimensional and multi-universal.
So when you start paying attention to that, start picking up on that, because of what is typically the status quo on your planet by comparison. You gonna feel a little bit like an outsider, that's okay.
Because ultimately those that are outside will become the inside.
Does that help?
Q: Yes, it does. Thank you very much.
Just be yourself.
You really, really, just well-discovered that you are worthy, you are beautiful. There is nothing about yourself to reject, there is nothing to be afraid of, just open up your heart and be yourself.
And don't base your state of being on what other people think.
In most cases, when anyone does something that is a rejection or type of an attack, it has really more to do with their issues than it does with yours.
Because they are in denial, they are not willing to look at their own issues. They're going to come and seek out someone that they can project out onto.
But you have to understand that it's their issues. I'm not saying you don't have your own issues of rejection. But, this is what you're doing. You doing in that way by attracting people you can’t actually have, because you're afraid of being rejected.
But other people who do the rejection are doing it because they are also rejecting themselves. So, in a sense, by being afraid of being rejected, you are actually yourself rejecting the companions you could be attracting.
So you're the one actually doing the rejection. See the differences?
Take it to heart, don't judge yourself for it. This is a lesson. It's a process, it's life. You're doing fine. Relax!
Q: Thank you very much!
You're very welcome.