Whomever you choose to be. Whatever aspect of Divinity you wish to be—that's Who You Are. That can change at any given moment. Indeed, it often does, from moment to moment. Yet if you want your life to settle down, to stop bringing you such a wide variety of experiences, there's a way to do that. Simply stop changing your mind so often about Who You Are, and Who You Choose to Be.
Neale: That may be easier said than done!
What I see is that you are making these decisions at many different levels. The child who decides to go out into the street to play in traffic is not making a choice to die. She may be making a number of other choices, but dying is not one of them. The mother knows that.
The problem here is not that the child has chosen to die, but that the child has made choices that could lead to more than one outcome, including her dying. That fact is not clear to her; it is unknown to her. It is the missing data—which stops the child from making a clear choice, a better choice.
So you see, you have analyzed it perfectly.
Now, I, as God, will never interfere with your choices—but I will always know what they are.
Therefore, you may assume that if a thing happens to you, it is perfect that it did so—for nothing escapes perfection in God's world.
The design of your life—the people, places, and events in it—have all been perfectly created by the perfect creator of perfection itself: you. And Me... in, as, and through you.
Now We can work together in this co-creative process consciously or unconsciously. You can move through life aware, or unaware. You can walk your path asleep, or awake.