Habits are not habits when you know it's a habit, it becomes a choice.
影片摘自：2018-Interdimensional Portals and Where to Find Them
And I want to talk a little bit about habits and the kits.
Yes. Well, habits are not habits when you know they're habits. Then they become choices.
Yes, and… Um, so if I realize that I have some habitual behavior that… Whether is getting to me to where I wanna to go, or don't wanna go…
Um, or either wanna amplify it, or not amplify it. Well, if it's a habit that…Um, it's not serving me.
Sometimes as I moved forward, I'll forget to pay attention to the habit, and I'll slip back into the habit. Are there any tools and techniques for us to…
Of course there are.
Again, this goes back to the one main technique in understanding that we have talked about many times, and that is understanding the “motivational mechanism” within you.
You have to understand. It's important to understand how the motivational mechanism works. This is how it works.
There are no exceptions to this. Not any of you are in exceptions to this.This is just built into you. It's part of your being, as a physical mind:
You always, instantly, immediately, without fail, with-out fail, always choose in the direction of what you believe benefits you. Always! There is no exception to this.
You will always choose what you believe benefits you. You will always move away from what you believe does not benefit you. Notice the operative word is “what you believe”.
Because you may be able to choose what doesn't benefit you, but the only reason you would realize you're doing that, is because you have a belief that makes it look like it benefits you more than the alternative.
Once you understand that, then you can realize that any so-called “habit”, any so-called “pattern” is nothing more than the recognition that you have a particular definitional belief attached to your motivational mechanism.
With respect to who it is you truly are that is somehow diminishing your perception of Who You Truly Are, and making it seem as if moving in the direction of your truth would actually be the least beneficial thing.
So when you figure out what the definition would have to be, to make your excitement seem less than exciting, to make what doesn't excite you seem more exciting than your excitement, then you will have the key that allows you to then switch those things on the motivational mechanism.
Because once you realize, once you identify what the negative belief is that is dampening your excitement, you will see that it makes no sense. It's illogical.
You will break the link that that belief has, to your truth, to your excitement, to your passion, because it will no longer make sense to connect that belief to the idea of your passion.
You will realize that it's probably just a fear-based belief that you bought into, saying: “Well if I did in fact move forward in my best way, my passion, to the best I can, I'm afraid something bad will happen.”
Therefore, I'm gonna stay exactly where I am. Because even though I might desire to go into the direction of my excitement, my motivational mechanism says that if I do, something worse than what's going on now will happen.
So I'll stay where I am as much as I don't necessarily find it exciting, because I define where I am as safer.
See what I'm saying?
…So, when you get a handle on understanding that that's all you need to do is find that definition that makes your excitement seem less safe than where you are staying. And see that it makes no sense by identifying that belief consciously, then it will flip.
Your motivational mechanism will flip.
Because as soon as a belief makes no sense, it's gone.
That's the end of the process of letting it go, not the beginning, because you don't hold onto things that don't make sense.
If you keep doing the same thing, if you keep having the same behavior, if you understand how the motivational mechanism works, then doing the same thing what you called the pattern in the habit can only mean one thing: You haven't found the fundamental belief yet.
Keep digging! Because as soon as you find the fundamental belief and let that go, all the secondary beliefs that may be connected to it will also collapse.
But sometimes, because of the nature of negative beliefs, because they need to perpetuate themselves, because that's what they designed to do.
They may use a little bit of a trick in perpetuating themselves, which means they may surround themselves with other negative beliefs that are secondary negative beliefs, offshoot negative beliefs.
So that when you find one of those and let it go, you may think “Oh, I have let go of a fundamental belief and now everything is hunky dory.”
But in fact, they're still hiding down there, because they're going: “She fell for it!”
You have to keep digging.
The clue is always in your behavior, in your thoughts, and in your emotions, as to whether you have truly let go of the fundamental belief or not.
So the habit, the pattern, is nothing more than saying, keep digging and find the fundamental belief that allows you to keep choosing this.
Because you believe it's in your best interest to do so, and when you reveal to yourself, the nonsensical nature of that belief and break that link, your motivational mechanism will flip. And you will start choosing in the direction what actually serves you, and not in the other direction.
That's how it works. Does that make sense?
Yes, and I want to ask about a specific fun, silly example like: say you sit down to great movie and you open up your favorite bag of cookies, and all of a sudden, you're eating a whole bag of cookies.
So it's about going “What am I doing?” And like, stopping yourself, so you…
Ask yourself, yes, “What am I doing?”
If you believe that what you are doing is not necessarily beneficial to you, but you find yourself doing it, that's the moment to stop and ask the question.
“Why am I doing this?”
What's the reason I'm choosing to do something that I know may not be too beneficial for me.
Now again, understand that sometimes it might be beneficial, you have to be able to discern the difference of the reason that you're creating.
Because you'll be able to tell the difference if you're honest with yourself between excitement and anxiety. And so when you take that moment, and realized what it is you're doing in your behavior, that's the whole point of that moment,
is to take that moment, stopping that moment, examining that moment, exploring that moment, and find out what the reason is. Why you're choosing to do what you're doing.
That will usually reveal the belief that you're working with.
And then at that moment you can decide whether or not that belief is in alignment with your truth or the antithesis of your truth.
And then from that point forward, if you let it go, your behavior will change.
The urges will stop.
Because you will no longer be living in that state of being, if you use that moment for that reason to explore, examine, and discover what the reason is that you're doing what you're doing.