Neale: Oh, believe me. There's pressure from everywhere. A lot of it comes from my own friends, too. Sometimes they want me to do something, or they want me to do something, or act in a way. That doesn't feel like "me. I'm never sure what to do. If I stay true to myself, I'm on the outs with the group. If I stay true to the group, I'm not being myself.
Remember this for the rest of your life. It may be one of the most important things you will ever hear:
Betrayal of yourself in order not to betray another is betrayal nonetheless. It is the highest betrayal.
If you are trying to avoid betraying another but must betray yourself in the process, then you are still committing a betrayal. It is merely a question of whom you are betraying, not whether you are betraying.
Yet when you are betraying yourself, you are betraying another as well, because the "you" that they think you are is not who you are at all. It is a false you. You have betrayed yourself and another.
Therefore, never betray yourself. Remember the words of Polonius to Laertes in Hamlet, written by William Shakespeare:
"To thine own self be true, and it must follow as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man."
Do not worry about "the group." The group will go away. One day it will simply not be there. Yet you will never go away. You will be with your Self until the end of time.
Does that mean to only do what I want to do?
It means, decide more honestly why you want to do a thing. If you want to do something in order to please another person or group, and if the doing of it does not please you but you are thinking of doing it anyway, don't do it.